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Towards Reconciliation: Is Forgiveness the Next Step?

As National Reconciliation Week begins and we celebrate twenty years since the Bringing Them Home report was tabled in Federal Parliament, and over ten years since former Prime Minister Kevin Rudd made The Apology to Australia’s Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples, my thoughts turn to a question which has been burning within me since The Apology was made: why haven’t we achieved Reconciliation?

It’s a question to which there are as many answers as there are those willing to answer it. Fingers can be pointed in all directions: Government, institutions, mainstream society, even back at Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander communities. Ironically, the majority of all these groups seem to want Reconciliation. So what’s the hold-up?

In his Apology to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples, former Prime Minister Kevin Rudd stated:

“The time has now come for the nation to turn a new page in Australia’s history by righting the wrongs of the past and so moving forward with confidence to the future.”

One of the main criticisms of the Australian Government it that it has not done enough to improve – or facilitate the improvement of – the lives of Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples. The updated Bringing Them Home 20 Years On report provides a classic example: twenty years after the original report and we see little progress, yet the same rhetoric, the same arguments, and the same recommendations. Stop and think about that for a moment. Twenty years, and we’re still talking about the same things! Forget “moving forward with confidence to the future” – we’re stuck in neutral. Or maybe even up on blocks!

On that premise it could be argued that Reconciliation cannot proceed until the Government makes substantial reparations to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples. While I believe that many Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples would agree with that, I also believe that there is (or should be) enough evidence to suggest that unless there is a major shift in the Government’s priorities, that degree of change is unlikely to happen.

Does that mean we should give up on Reconciliation? Not at all. However, it does mean that we may need to alter our approach to Reconciliation, and consider the sequence of events that need to occur in order for us to start moving forward.

Former Prime Minister Kevin Rudd said:

“We the Parliament of Australia respectfully request that this apology be received in the spirit in which it is offered as part of the healing of the nation.”

At the time it seemed that Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples – in general – had received the Government’s apology, in that it was both welcomed and valued, and seen as a huge step to improving race relations in Australia. However, I think what may have been lost over time is that Mr Rudd was not just asking for the apology to be received or accepted: he was asking for forgiveness. Maybe that’s what’s been missing from the Reconciliation process to date?

When two people have an argument, once it’s determined who is in the wrong there is usually an apology, a promise to make amends, and then forgiveness. Forgiving conveys an understanding that the apology and proposed correction have been accepted, and that things can move forward. It is not ‘forgive and forget’, and does not imply that the receiving party must ‘get over it’. If anything, it is important to recognise and recall past faults in order to facilitate current and future correction.

While I believe Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples welcomed the Apology, I’m not convinced that, as a majority, we have expressed forgiveness. Further, I believe this is recognised, perhaps on a subconscious or unexpressed level, by broader Australian society, and inhibits the Reconciliation process. Not because non-Indigenous Australia doesn’t want Reconciliation, but because it’s waiting for us to say, “it’s okay, we forgive you, let’s work out how we move forward from here.”

The idea of forgiveness without prior reparations might be inconceivable to some Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples. For many – arguably all – the sins of the past still affect present-day lives. Many wounds are still open, and being stuck in the status quo does little to help them heal. We’re now fifty years on from the Referendum, twenty years on from Bringing Them Home, and almost ten years from The Apology: there is nothing to suggest those wounds will heal unless we do something different to what we’ve done in the past.

I’m not going to tell anyone that we ‘have to’ forgive broader Australia for the past – that’s not my place to say. What I will do is encourage all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples to consider whether forgiveness is the next step towards Reconciliation. We need to have this discussion in our families, our communities, and our organisations. We need to ask ourselves, can we forgive? Are we ready to forgive? Is forgiveness what we need to do in order to strengthen the relationship between Indigenous and non-Indigenous Australia, and in doing so, make Reconciliation – and all the factors that are included in achieving Reconciliation – a national priority for all Australians.

How else can we move forward?

Please feel free to share your thoughts in the comments section below.

Learn About Aboriginal Australia – Ask an Aboriginal Person!

In the spirit of National Reconciliation Week (27 May to 3 June) I’m inviting anyone and everyone who would like to learn more about Aboriginal peoples to go ahead and ask – me!

I’m not claiming to be an expert, but as an Aboriginal person with a diverse range of knowledge and experiences, I’m more than willing to share what I know with all who would like to know more. And if there’s anything I can’t answer (and I’m sure there will be) I’ll do my best to find someone who can.

I see this as an opportunity to promote Reconciliation between Aboriginal and non-Aboriginal peoples through sharing knowledge, promoting understanding, and removing fears. Reconciliation begins by coming together at the same table and engaging in open discussion.

Please post any questions in the comments section below – I will respond to each as quickly and best as I’m able!

Happy National Reconciliation Week!

Reconciling Australia: We Need Acknowledgement More Than Apology

984a1b0af5d47f5f81d26ace274913bdIt’s National Reconciliation Week in Australia, a time intended to build relationships between Aboriginal and non-Aboriginal Australians. The last time I spoke about Reconciliation I called for reconciliation between Aboriginal peoples. Yet as I skim through the posts, tweets, memes, and videos posted in commemoration of this week, a sad irony presents itself: there is still so much bitterness, so much anger, so much hurt, and so much division between Aboriginal and non-Aboriginal Australians. Reconciliation in Australia seems less likely than ever.

National Reconciliation Week arrives just after National Sorry Day, a day commonly misunderstood to be recognition of the Apology to Australia’s Indigenous Peoples by former Prime Minister Kevin Rudd. While the two are inextricably linked, National Sorry Day commemorates the tabling of the Bringing them Home report on Australia’s Stolen Generation, and is held to both recognise the injustices of the past, and hold the Australian Government accountable for repairing the damage caused by those injustices. It is a day of mourning and remembrance, in much the same way that ANZAC Day is a day of mourning and remembrance.

However, it’s the ‘sorry’ part that seems to be the sticking point. Many Aboriginal peoples feel that ‘sorry’ isn’t enough; that without reparations ‘sorry’ is just a word non-Indigenous people use to absolve themselves of guilt. On the other hand, many non-Aboriginal Australians do not see the point of continuously saying ‘sorry’; at best they feel their remorse is not being accepted as genuine, and at worst, that an apology isn’t necessary for something they personally have not done – that “the past is in the past”. Could it be that the demand for ‘sorry’ is actually driving a wedge between Aboriginal and non-Aboriginal peoples, rather than bringing us together?

Perhaps the way towards achieving Reconciliation involves acknowledgement more so than apology. Acknowledgement on both sides of the cultural divide.

The first thing to acknowledge is that Aboriginal peoples are still suffering, in every sense of the word, from the injustices of the past. This does not mean that Aboriginal peoples are “still living in the past”; rather it means that the effects of those injustices are still very much the present, and the immediate foreseeable future, for Aboriginal peoples. It is not the past because Aboriginal peoples are still living it. Non-Aboriginal people don’t need to understand that – in fact it is arguable that anyone not living through that could not truly understand it anyway – but they do need to acknowledge that the suffering experienced by Aboriginal peoples is real, and part of the reason things are the way they are.

By the same token, Aboriginal peoples also need to acknowledge that we are still suffering as well, and this suffering can skew our perceptions of the attitudes of non-Aboriginal peoples towards us. I have seen and heard too many Aboriginal peoples use their suffering as justification for their mistrust of non-Aboriginal people. Sadly, there are still enough non-Aboriginal people whose intolerance and racist attitudes fuel this mistrust, but it is not representative of all – or in my personal belief, even the majority – of non-Aboriginal Australians. Many non-Aboriginal support, or at least want to support, the betterment and empowerment of Aboriginal peoples. We need to acknowledge that, and in doing so let them support us.

There also needs to be acknowledgement on both sides that the disparity between Aboriginal and non-Aboriginal peoples in relation to health, education, social justice, and a whole host of other issues, from a moral and ethical viewpoint, is wrong. Everyone knows about these disparities, however what is becoming increasingly obvious is that many have come to believe that these disparities are unavoidable, even normal or expected. It is in no way normal, and should not be expected, much less accepted. Acknowledging the wrongness of this attitude is not just a task for non-Aboriginal peoples: Aboriginal peoples also need to acknowledge that living with these disparities is not part of Aboriginal identity (read my previous article for more discussion on this topic). Betterment is not about assimilation. It’s about levelling the playing field. No one would expect that non-Aboriginal people should lower their standards of health, education, and so on to the level of Aboriginal peoples. Why should there be any resistance on either side to raising those same standards for Aboriginal peoples to those of the greater Australian society?

We don’t need more apologies to achieve true Reconciliation between Aboriginal and non-Aboriginal Australians, we need more acknowledgement.  We need to acknowledge the need for remorse, and the need for forgiveness. We need to acknowledge the problems, and the need to find solutions. We need to acknowledge that our differences can be used to unify rather than divide. And we need to acknowledge that we – all of us – are the only ones who can make Reconciliation happen.

Do you believe in Reconciliation? What do you think we need to make Reconciliation happen? More acknowledgement? More apologies? Please feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below.